By Maltiti Sayida Sadick
In a candid interview on GTV Breakfast, relationship coach Rev. Dr. Nana Yaa Prempeh tackled the harrowing issue of abusive relationships. Speaking with Valerie Danso, Rev. Nana Yaa emphasized the importance of recognizing abuse and taking steps to protect oneself.
Rev. Nana Yaa opened the discussion by stressing that no one enters a relationship expecting to be mistreated. “We go into relationships for love, not to be abused,” she stated, highlighting the initial optimism and trust that often blinds people to early signs of abuse.
She pointed out that abuse isn’t gender-specific, mentioning, “There are women who abuse men, especially when the man is deeply in love with the woman.” This underscores the necessity for both men and women to be vigilant about unhealthy dynamics.
Rev. Nana Yaa advised taking time to address any imbalances in a relationship. “If a man loves a woman, he would not drive her insane,” she remarked, stressing the need for mutual respect and balance. Families play a vital role in protecting loved ones. “Families must take their child out of abusive relationships before they are driven insane,” she emphasized. Early signs of abusive tendencies, often seen in childhood, need to be addressed by parents to prevent future abusive behaviors.
“A lot of women are hiding abusive relationships from their families because they want to protect their men,” Rev. Nana Yaa revealed. This silence can exacerbate the abuse, making it harder for victims to seek help.
Rev. Nana Yaa differentiated between one-time lashing out due to overwhelming challenges and habitual abuse. “There are times when one party is overwhelmed with challenges; when they lash out, they can be forgiven if it is one time,” she explained. However, she warned against staying with a habitual abuser who does not appreciate their partner.
“God hates abuse,” Rev. Nana Yaa asserted, urging those in abusive relationships to question their situation: “What are you still doing with a habitual abuser who does not appreciate you?” She encouraged victims to seek environments where they are celebrated, not demeaned.
Rev. Nana Yaa emphasized the importance of having an escape plan before leaving an abusive relationship. “Make sure you have an escape plan before you leave, else you will go back into it,” she cautioned, underscoring the necessity of planning and support.
The conversation on GTV Breakfast was a powerful reminder of the complexities of abusive relationships and the urgent need for awareness, support, and decisive action. Rev. Nana Yaa’s insights provide a crucial roadmap for anyone trapped in the cycle of abuse, urging them to find safety and reclaim their lives.
